The psychology behind Catfishing Behaviour
Internet VS Reality
A few weeks ago we had a comment on Instagram from a guy who told us a story of a girl he matched with on Tinder and how she looked nothing like her pictures when they meet- he felt he had been Catfished.
Catfishing can go anywhere from pretending to be a completely different person to using extreme editing and filters on your photos, like in our friend's case.
But WHY do so many women feel inclined to present themselves like this?
Well, the first reason is pretty obvious, everyday women are bombarded with this on social media & TV, and feel pressured to fit unrealistic beauty standards set by society, coming from celebrities and models.
But the truth is...
Not even models look like models!
Psychological research has found that loneliness, lack of social connection, and dissatisfaction with one’s physical appearance lead people to catfishing behavior.
The crazy thing is that the right man will love you for who you are with all your so-called "defects". Everybody has blemishes and they make us human, unique, and beautiful.
Self-love is not just a skincare day and an occasional massage, but really to love who you are and the skin you are living in.
"As you generate love within for who you are, you radiate it outwards and attract it back in spades"
Traci Poterfield
Here are a few examples of neuro-exercises to boost your confidence and enhance your self-esteem:
* Adopt an open and inviting posture- no crossed legs nor arms. Try to embody your confidence with how you hold yourself, and even if you don't feel it yet, simply by changing your physiology, your mind will tend to follow...
* Speak clearly, deliberately and with gravitas- remember what you're saying is worth hearing. No need to interrupt anyone nor push your perspectives, your energy behind what you say is actually more important than the words you choose to share...
* Don't take yourself too seriously- humor is a universal language and can help diffuse and prevent conflict with competitive types. Know that everything can be seen from a humorous angle... and if it's going to be funny 6 months from now, it might as well be funny now!
Stop holding CONFIDENCE in awe!
If you hold the notion of "confidence" in awe, you are telling yourself that it is elusive and out of your reach. You need to understand that confidence is just a tiny emotional loop in your brain's limbic system.